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[quote=Anonymous]I think your parents have given you a gift (especially assuming they drop it now that they've said their piece).

You have similar concerns. So, it's time to take a serious look at your boyfriend's drinking, and make an educated assessment of whether or not he has a problem. Here's what I'd be looking for:

1) Does he ever sneak drinks or try to hide/downplay his drinking?
2) Does he say he's not going to drink, or only have one or two drinks, but end up drunk anyway?
3) How much is alcohol part of his routine? Does his drinking ebb and flow with special events, or just his general preferences? (healthier, IMO) Or are there situations where he ALWAYS drinks that are a routine part of life (ex: does he always have to drink if he's upset about something?)
4) What's his total amount of drinking? In a typical month, how much is he drinking? 
5) If you ask him about his drinking, or express concern, how does he respond? Thoughtfully or dismissively (oh, nah, I never worry about it) might both be okay - but angrily or defensively would be a big problem.

Do some research, maybe even talk to someone who specializes in alcohol issues. It's worth figuring out if he's just a 20/30 something who likes his boozy young adult life, or whether he's on a path to a problem, and I think there are well established signs that will help you tease out the difference.

FWIW, 4-5 drinks when those around him are not drinking at all is a red flag to me, for sure. [/quote]

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