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[quote=Anonymous]OP, from your second post, it sounds like the real issue is that your DH is not emotionally demonstrative and doesn't do much to show you how much he cares about you.  You are looking for a Christmas present to provide you evidence of this.  Your DH probably knows that on some level, and talk about pressure for someone who doesn't like to show his feelings in the first place.  Buying gifts for adults is hard ... and I for one buying presents just for the sake of having something for someone to open.  And would you really be satisfied by a present that you essentially picked out for yourself?  If you do the choosing, and all he is doing is the purchasing, how does that show you that he was thoughtful and put forth effort?  Instead of getting bummed out over his gift-giving or lack thereof, how about having a real discussion about him about how you are not feeling appreciated, etc., and could he please make an effort to do some little things throughout the year that would show his appreciation - give him some examples of things like bringing home flowers, a surprise date that he arranges, or anything you think he is capable of pulling off that you would enjoy.  I'd much rather have an unexpected token of appreciation than a Christmas-mandated present, if what I really want is to know my DH is thinking of me, appreciates me, etc.[/quote]

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