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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Quite frankly, it is pretty annoying to have a one way conversation, where the person is "waiting" to be asked to speak. I would probably mis-judge you and think you are rude.

I too am a talker and if you were "waiting" to speak, you would never get a word in.  I'm suprised you are attracted to people like me because I'm not in the least attracted to people who cannot contribute to a conversation without being asked.[/quote]

OP here - For me, it usually starts as someone needs something done and I hate hurting feelings by saying no. So I end up being a doormat. I walk away feeling used for an errand or whatnot. [b]I worry so much about what to say to not offend or hurt others feelings that I don't say what I really feel sometimes.[/b][/quote]

Why? Do you really feel that your words have that much power? Do you really think that most people are so emotionally unstable sensitive that they are going to fall apart or be devastated if you join the conversation? You are thinking you have more control and influence than you do.

Unless you say something outlandish most people are not noticing your every word. If you say something that is a bit dumb then people might be slightly annoyed but they realize that everyone says slightly stupid things at one point or another and it doesn't impact them. Stop worrying about hurting people's feelings. You know what an insult is, you know what being rude or disrespectful or offensive is. Avoid those things...and say everything else. Having differing opinions is what makes people interesting to talk to. If everyone agreed or thought the same then the conversations would be boring or over quickly.

You aren't hurting feelings by saying no. I don't think in my life my feelings have ever been hurt by someone saying no to something I asked them for in a conversation. Again if I thought they were saying no just to be difficult then I'd be annoyed but still not hurt. The vast majority of people are not that super sensitive.[/quote]

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