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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, was he a thoughtful gift-giver before you got married?[/quote]

OP here--
no, he wasn't.  Which was okay at the time because I honestly am very low maintenance and during the beginning years of our relationship (the first 5 or 7 at least) it didn't bother me that he isn't thoughtful when it comes to getting gifts.  But now a decade later and I'm feeling sort of worn out.  I bore this man 3 children and have done all sorts of things for him and the best he can do, year after year is the December 22nd completely generic $20 crappy token "holy crap, I have to get her something and Christmas is 2 days away!" gift.  
I guess I'm feeling just generally uncherished.  It's the same for birthdays and anniversaries and Valentine's day and everything else.  I'm just a bit beaten down and feeling sorry for myself.

And he's not the type to ever do something thoughtful like get me a cup of morning coffee like a previous poster mentioned.  [b]He's a great provider and a great dad and I have no fears that he'll ever leave me.  He's slow and steady and committed.  But he's never been physically or emotionally demonstrative and has never made me feel special or cherished (aside from the fact that I know he's incredibly committed to me which I don't want to under credit him for).  [/b]

I know I took this way off course.  Please don't flame me. [/quote]

I think we are married to the same guy, and I often feel the same way.  One year my gifts were purchased from CVS late on Christmas Eve (after he realized I filled his stocking but had nothing for mine).  Last year for my birthday I got tickets to a Caps game- (who was that for, anyway?) -and I'm not a hockey fan.  At least those were times he DID get gifts.  It's good to vent once in a while, but generally I don't care.  I'm sorry you are feeling this way.  [/quote]

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