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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you should just tell your parents that your wife has major anxiety problems now and won't leave the baby.  And then your wife can stay home or you both can stay home.  It's a bummer.  I was very anxious about leaving my first born with grandparents, and wow that was such a mistake.  It's important to get out as an adult and it's nice to have grandparents available.  Your wife will leave the baby with her own parents, but not yours.  Your parents will notice that.  [/quote]

Former postpartum depression and anxiety sufferer here.

Not to pile on, but I hope your DW is under treatment and or at least is being supported and encouraged to seek treatment, whatever that looks like.

Is DW healthy enough for this “vacation?” Is she panicked and or ruminating about every detail? Does she have anticipatory anxiety?

I would consider canceling this trip, honestly, if she is overwhelmed. [/quote]

And back to say that I wish I’d had the courage and foresight to have canceled similar family vacations in the midst of my then undiagnosed anxiety. Sheer hell and I made up all sorts of excuses for why I’d need to stay behind or force myself to do other things when I was miserable.[/quote]

+1 The way the OP describes the situation makes it sound like the anxiety is stronger on the part of the mom than the baby (who will more likely than not, adjust within the hour, as babies tend to do).  OP should warn his parents about this ahead of time, so they're not blindsided when she doesn't want to leave the baby.[/quote]

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