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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am extraordinarily difficult to anger - I will get upset sometimes but I never raise my voice and don’t have a temper. DH tends to yell and get really mad when something frustrates him. As an example, we’ve been frequently losing internet lately and whenever this happens he will curse and yell. Is this normal? It’s not directed at me so I’m not afraid, but it’s unpleasant. Am I just weird and lacking in emotions or is this an emotional regulation issue?[/quote]

Np here.  I think that sometimes people meltdown out of frustration, and that’s okay.  We are human.  But constant yelling at every little frustration is a problem.  He doesn’t yell directly at you now, but eventually he will.  You will be better off addressing this issue now by telling him you don’t want to live in a house with constant yelling.  Tell him he has to find other ways of dealing with frustration because this isn’t going to work.  Don’t put it in explicit terms of an ultimatum, but make it clear you won’t deal with this long term.  do it now before that day when he does yell and curse at you, because once that seal is broken, it’s a lot harder to change those behaviors.

And it is an emotion regulation issue, like a kid throwing a tantrum.  I think that in general boys aren’t reprimanded as much as girls when they throw tantrums as children.  The result is that more adult men think it’s okay to yell and curse and behave that way when they are frustrated.  Society excuses that behavior in men.  Address this now.  It might save your marriage long term.

And he will eventually yell and curse at you.  Get him to tackle the issue now before that happens.[/quote]

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