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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]12:17 here. I meant that I followed what those two methods said about setting a good foundation for sleep from day one. I.e. establishing a bedtime routine, getting enough calories during the day, daytime naps with plenty of sunlight and night feedings with lights very low, etc.

All that to say, I did start to do soothing rounds rather than night feeds by about 12 weeks, and my baby slept through the night 7-7 consistently very shortly after that. Maybe a week, max. And because of the foundation I set from day one, my baby slept from 7-4 or 5 am by about 8 weeks. Not consistently, but soon enough it was consistent.

So, shame me all you want but I have an excellent sleeper, a happy baby and a healthy, well rested family. [/quote]

+1 I'm with you. I think people are reading "sleep train" as CIO, which I agree you can't do until 4 months. But there are lots of things you can do as far as no cry, gentle sleep training and learning, from essentially day one. [/quote]

Another +1[/quote]

Another +1 and I have three kids.

Also find what makes you feel human and do it everyday. For me this was showering/getting dressed. Do that. A lot of people just fall into the morass of overwhelming babydom. Remember who you are, do things that help you remember who you are.

Establish egalitarian habits with your husband NOW. Don't wait until a year because you are doing all the feeding/caring/soothing/whatever. No, that entrenches a disparity of effort that lasts FOREVER and destroys marriages. Equal distribution of labor starts when your baby is one DAY old not five years old. Seriously I think this is the number one most important thing you can do. The fourth trimester can establish mom as a primary caregiver and that will literally NEVER change. Don't let that happen.

Everything is a phase, even horrible things are phases.

Leave the house once every day or two.

Don't feel bad about doing something the 'easy' or 'lazy' way. Seriously. Its hard work, everyone who retains their sanity takes some cheats, don't feel bad about them.

Love your baby. Babies are made of rubber not glass and the only thing you can really do wrong is not love them. If you love them, you're good. And if you are feeling emotionally disconnected from your baby or still feeling bouts of significant sadness beyond weeks 4-6 seek out your OBGYN for some mental health support. [/quote]

Major +1 to all this, but ESPECIALLY the egalitarian part. So important!![/quote]

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