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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I get what you’re saying and want to validate you even though I don’t have advice. My DH is like this. Even if my kids were sitting 100% still and not making a sound, knowing that he is both responsible for the kids AND making breakfast makes my DH a snarly, grouchy mess. His brain can do one task at a time, medicated or not. That’s it. Anything else short-circuits him and he’s basically an angry cartoon robot with smoke coming out of his ears.

My DH is medicated and I do a lot to support his deficits, but when you are alone remind yourself that “deficit” is part of the definition of ADHD. You’re not crazy- [b]you’re trying to coparent worth someone who’s “co-“ will always be less than yours[/b]. It’s tough.[/quote]

I'm the PP who just wrote a very long comment (info-dumping, ADHD, yay!)

I agree strongly with this except for the framing of the bolded. We do have deficits, and this is important to remember. I don't think that necessarily translates into being a poorer co-parent on the whole. At least not in a generalizable way for all-- or even most-- parents with ADHD. Because we often have great gifts that can be really helpful to parenting-- creativity, flexibility, empathy, being less judgmental (related to trouble prioritizing information, but the good side). And so on.

I think (and this may be how you meant it!) the bolded statement is more true regarding the compulsory parts of parenting-- and just home-related duties-- that keep the household stable and running smoothly. Basically because they require a lot of executive function! They are tremendously important-- and undervalued b/c they usually fall to women-- and I'm not knocking them at all! But they are also not the entirety of good parenting. [/quote]

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