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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nope. That's why [b]I don't understand why people want to be aunts (none of our siblings ended up having kids) or grandmas.[/b] The real fun is being a parent!

I do like some of my kids' friends, but it's been so long since I've seen any.[/quote]

I do think this is partially a holdover from an era when parents were expected to be disciplinarians and to have contentious relationships with their kids. The idea was that it was more fun to be an aunt/uncle or a grandparent because you got to be indulgent. Now we've done a [necessary] upheaval of parenting and don't view it so much on a strict versus lenient scale. Most of the parents I know (including us) have settled into a kind of "respectful but firm guidance" model, where you aren't buddies with your kids but there is always kindness and respect. As a result, we're closer to our kids and they like us more than most of us were with our parents. My kids have zero reason to prefer my siblings or parents to me because I'm not a jerk to them. If anything, they are put off by my parents, in particular, who have old fashioned notions about kids. For instance, my mom is constantly trying to inform them of rules that make no sense to them (like telling my daughter she is getting too old to "be silly" -- my DD looked at her like she had two heads and I've never been prouder).

Our kids like us most of all the adults they know, including teachers. That probably won't always be true -- who knows what the teen years will bring? But we have so much fun together as a family that the idea of having a better time with people they don't know quite as well or who have a different vibe is just unlikely at the moment.[/quote]

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