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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is the utmost of evil to regret having them. That's on her.

She's making it all about her. She thinks they are a poor reflection on her. She thinks they owe her. She's got it all wrong. She's very screwed up.[/quote]

It’s not evil to regret having a child.  A lot do us regret having children for a variety of reasons; not selfish or evil.  My son is the greatest joy of my life and a good, good child but many days I regret having him.  His father is a sociopathic narcissist whose rage makes our home unsafe.  There is no future for my child that doesn’t involve enormous pain for him and there is no future for me that doesn’t involve this man because he is my child’s father.  (Unless he dies soon which will be freeing for me but painful for my child.) I regret bringing such a precious, good, trusting, joyful creature into this family that is hurting him.  I regret that I will forever be responsible for bringing a person into the world and being the cause of his pain.  He brings me SO much joy wnd pleasure and goodness.  But my terrible mistake in marrying his father resulted in his creation and also a lot of pain.

If my son turned out to be anything like his father: hateful, racist, misogynistic, angry - which is my worst fear - I would also regret having him.  Whether he has tattoos or a high income or becomes a doctor is not important to me.  What I hope for most is that he retains the empathy, sensitivity, kindness, courage, and desire to do good in the world that he has today.

I have known other good parents who have regretted bringing their children into the world.  One of the parents of a wonderful teen I know - a refugee from a wan torn country - said bluntly one day in front of him that she regrets having him.  Not that she doesn’t love him and know that his presence in the world makes it better, but that she is forever sorry that she brought him into the world only to suffer so much, and her be powerless to help.  I get that.[/quote]

Wow. Are you divorcing so you can make a safer home for your son?[/quote]

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