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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is great.  Thank you.  We have an 8 year span between two kids so we were able to learn some of these lessons with our first child.  Worrying about rankings, teams, and how well our first child played every week was such a mistake that we thankfully learned for our second.  Looking back, our first was on a "top team", but it wasn't a good fit for her and I feel like she lost a couple years.  It wasn't until U14 that she moved and really blossomed.  I kick myself for those "lost years".  She had D1 opportunities, but didn't want soccer to consume her life in college so went to great D3 school to play.

I love the missing the drive part you commented on.  We drive about 35 minutes for practices and I honestly don't mind because it is a great opportunity to just talk to my kid.

I'll throw this in - These kids know when they play badly and don't need to hear about it on the car ride home.  Let them be kids, enjoy the game and go fail..it's ok.  They will start hating the games and the game itself if they know they are getting a lecture for all they did "wrong" every week.  We got caught into some of that with our first and I regret every one of those drives home now.  I look back at a sign from a tournament a few years ago about parent's behavior.  One of the comments said something like,  no college scholarships are being awarded today so relax and enjoy watching your kid play.  That stuck with me.  [/quote]

100%

Driving further for practices isn't always fun, but it is a great way to stay connected with my kids as they get older.  It's harder as kids get into the 11-15 age bracket and I cherish our longer drives to practice.

Also completely agree on the dreaded drives home after a bad game where parents feel the need to critique performance.  I'm very understanding of that as I still remember dreading the car ride home from games when I was younger and didn't play well.  I knew I didn't play well and my dad confirming vs comforting was always a tough spot for me.  Years later he told me how much he regretted some of those rides home where he was maybe too tough on me.  I make sure to keep my thoughts to myself after a bad game from my kids unless they want to talk about it after a game.  I remember reading an article about Pulisic a couple years ago and his dad made a similar comment that he never criticized his son's performance after games.  He even said after really bad games they would just get in the car and he would stop for ice cream on the way home.  I liked that.   [/quote]

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