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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP- You will make it through this and you are a great daughter for caring so much.  I know you can't go and stay with her for months but could you go and stay with her for 2 weeks?  I went and stayed with my parents for 9 days to help after mom had surgery and it was very helpful.  My parents sound like your mom in that they have an incredible set of caring and involved neighbors and a huge group of church ladies that help out.  In the 9 days I was there I was able to talk to at least 20 people that help my parents with things like driving to appointments and chores around the house.  I was able to get contact info from everyone and also get a much better understanding of who does what.  Maybe one of the supporting people in your mom's life would be able to act as a coordinator and communicate with you when it becomes to hard for your mom.  There are services that do this but having a friend do it would be so much better.  Offer to pay/support this person. Come up with a list of all tasks that need to get done and figure out which ones you can hire someone to take care of. Your siblings need to chip in for those.

Living far away is really hard. But your mom sounds like she is surrounded by loving people. If you get a chance to meet these people in person it will give you some peace of mind and an avenue of communication for them to let you know what is needed.[/quote]

Did your mother get better after surgery?[/quote]

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