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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I don't know how I'm going to navigate this without constantly feeling torn, guilty, depressed, miserable[/quote]

This is not what your Mother wants for you. This would cause her tremendous pain. For you to be suffering. The most important way to honor her, your Mother, a mother like any mother, is to appreciate that she raised you well. She raised you to be strong. That is what she wants for you.

I know this is a somewhat unique point, and takes some adjustment. But I think it's valid. And I think it helps anyone who's grieving.[/quote]

I cannot speak for OP, but from my own experience, that of some friends etc, often what happens is they become so self-focused with age, they only want you to meet their needs and just don't have the empathy anymore. So, based on something OP wrote in the beginning this may not be the case with her mom. You have to take care of yourself first because you matter and your kids need you, even if your mom starts guilt tripping you and making you feel tremendous pain for not dropping everything and making her the priority. There is a balance, but it sometimes comes with accepting you cannot please your parent,but you can still find your own way to show love and support.[/quote]

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