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[quote=Anonymous][quote]One would expect that with teens there would be some kind of program that would teach them basic life skills and get them ready to live on their own.
I hear that despite all the benefits they qualify for, only 2% go to college.
Could that be because they are moved around so often during high school years or just nobody teaching them to even apply?
Do they get to learn how to drive?[/quote]

Step back and think about all the years of life skills teaching that a foster child who has spent a decade or more being shuffled between foster homes and an unstable bio family will have missed.
Start with emotional regulation.  A neurotypical child in a stable home learns those skills gradually through toddlerdom through elementary school.
Very basic stuff:  Don't hit people.  Don't scream at your teacher.  
Then get into things like:  Be on time.  Call if you can't get somewhere.  
Kids who grow up in dysfunction miss out on a lot of these very basic principles, which are best instilled in small children who are at a malleable age and want to please adults.  Teaching those skills to teens is a lot harder because they are at a developmental stage which is hard-wired to want to rebel against instruction.  
Then add in the reality that a large percentage of kids in foster care are struggling with the effects of pre-natal alcohol and drug exposure that cause learning disabilities and emotional dysregulation, not to mention emotional trauma.

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