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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Fun AI. To experience “the deep” (authentic and meaningful emotional connection with other adults) you have to know/be willing to tread in deep waters. Can you? [/quote]

Yes, I am perfectly fine with going deep and have that with a few friends.  But it's rare I find someone I actually want to go really deep with (i.e. talk about traumas or whatever).  [b]A lot of people simply arent that intelligent or insightful, ime.[/b]  Wish I could find more people where there was a really deep energetic match, between what we think is fun, compelling, interesting, challenging, etc.  it always seems like one of those things is just... out of sync. [/quote]

This tells me that you're the problem -- not them.  [/quote]

Well, I mean, I have a tested very high IQ, so maybe I am "the problem", statistically speaking. I certainly don't find many people that I find I can truly have an intellectually exciting conversation with. And it's disappointing, because I'm an extrovert, and would love to be able to "go there" with more people.  But I can't control my IQ, my intellectual threshold, or anything like that.  And frankly, settling for being friends with people who aren't as intelligent has been really unfulfilling to me.  So maybe these kinds of gifts are isolating.  I wish there was a solution.  [/quote]

My suggestion is to get involved with organizations through volunteer and public engagement opportunities. Whatever field fascinâtes you — follow the public event releases. If nothing else you’ll commit to a few hours of enlightenment with other passionate nerds like yourself. :)

I’d say the same if you’re big into fitness — lean into it. Set freaks, join classes, meet participants and build from there.

Friends are a rich and cultivated pot of gold, you have to work to both give and demonstrate value and welcome their own. :)

Wow.  If you are anywhere close to this insufferable in person, it's a wonder you have any friends -- fake or otherwise -- at all.  Enjoy your "gift," genius.  [/quote]

People are offended by intelligence. Go to places and sources of info where you find joy maybe it is a museum. Participate in a curated convo. Go live. The rest will come.[/quote]

Thanks.  This is a really good idea.  I will say I was a major underachiever in high school and went to a college way below my testing levels because my grades were so awful. I do tend to have really stimulating conversations with some of my high school friends who went to more elite schools, whereas I went to a somewhat rural party school because I wanted an easy route and was dealing with a lot. I often feel like, if I could redo things or get into a group with more intelligent types, that I would be a lot more satisfied. Not in a braggy way, just I am so sick of certain dead end conversations and it's gotten to a point where I feel lonely with almost all of my friends from college, which is where most of my friendships arose from. [/quote]

I’d say the same if you’re big into fitness — lean into it. Set freaks, join classes, meet participants and build from there.

Friends are a rich and cultivated pot of gold, you have to work to both give and demonstrate value and welcome their own. :)
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Thank you for this!  The problem is I'm not a nerd at all.  I have a high IQ yet I hate most "nerdy" topics and am way more interested in, say, pop culture and girly things like fashion.  I also present as kind of a Barbie doll type with blonde hair and in a lot of pink.  So my friend group seems to be divided between the handful of nerdy, judgmental types (usually dont hang out with them as much cause I dont like the judgement) and fellow Barbie doll types where the conversation is just off.

I know there are plenty of other girls out there like me but they just seem to be so impossible to find.  I feel like I exist in some nebulous "nowhere" place, like the world between worlds.  And both sides are unsatisfying and leave me feeling drained after hanging out.

I used to be able to overlook all of this but as I get older I am just more and more unsatisfied and finding it harder to overlook.  I dont even know if there's a solution. Seems like it's probably too late to change all of it.[/quote]

I’d be your friend if I knew you IRL. I have a deceptive Barbie crew that makes the boys piss their pants. We are out here! Don’t give up.[/quote]

Awww thank you!  It's nice to know girls like you are out there. Maybe I will try venturing out to the bars a few more times and keeping going.  I see them on social media![/quote]

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