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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not being able to stand child-related noise isn't a problem in and of itself:  Teach the kids to be quieter.

You've posted here a bunch about your wife and her depressive issues.  Somehow, it comes across as condescending a lot---she isn't living up to your idea of the perfect parent, she isn't as attached to the kids as you think of as ideal, she doesn't do what you think she should.  I for one would like to hear her side of it---that would be living with someone who is never ever satisfied with what she does, who openly belittles her on forums, whom, I suspect, subtly puts down her efforts at becoming attached to the kids.  Gee---I wonder why she quit trying so hard?[/quote]

OP here - when you have lived with someone with undertreated mental illness and are trying to raise healthy kids in the household you can judge me. Many people have expressed concern about DW's functioning both in relation to the kids and otherwise. I only wish it was falling short of an "ideal". She has a hard time minimally functioning, esp as a parent and treating the depression hasn't really improved that difficulty. It's both interacting with others and just getting through the day. She barely remembers her childhood so it seemed like a possibility that it could be part of the problem. She has nightmares and a kind of panic response to normal everyday things. She seems to be getting worse. I so wish that it was all about me being an asshat.

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