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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]HS Teacher. The fact that your student came back in person or not is irrelevant.

I have students in both groups for whom I would write glowing recs, and others who should know better than to ask me for a rec (I wouldn't agree to give them one). A few of the in-person ones are worse off in some respects, because the apathy and disinterest they show in person would have been better hidden behind a turned-off webcam.[/quote]

OP here. Thank you for sharing your perspective! I feel like the lists above are just not helpful. I really had no energy to keep encouraging my kid to turn on cameras and go to office hours. Our situation during the pandemic has been just horrible and depressing. We’re at the end of our ropes. I feel incredibly fortunate my kid goes to classes and does well enough. I have zero idea if his camera is on or if he goes to office hours. He’s 16. I’m flat out of all energy. Signed, Barely Hanging On to My Job, My Health and My Sanity. [/quote]

If you told him once, his counselor also told him once (I know my kids FCPS counselor made a big deal about the importance of setting yourself apart by showing maturity, excitement about learning (eyeroll) and responsibility during DL), and his teachers also told him at least once.  He was on notice. It’s  not your job to hound him every day. He’s 16, not 6. Either he took advantage of what was offered with a good attitude, did the work amd made the best he could of less than ideal— or not. And if by “well enough” grades, you mean not too far below 9th and 10th, then he probably did.   It’s used so much on here it sounds snotty, but it’s not meant to be. If he really slacked off to the point he can’t get a decent recommendation, maybe he isn’t ready to go away for college and self regulate.  In which case, 2 years of NOVA with guaranteed  transfer to UVA, a WM or VT is an option. He’ll still get there. Just not the way he wanted. But, he’s too old for you to stand over all day.

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