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[quote=Anonymous]If you are successful, tell me the secret of finding such friends.  :lol:  I am an introvert but pretty social, highly educated, avid reader, love to discuss all kinds of topics - politics, policies, economics, spiritualism, films, music, environment - and after college I have only found 1-2 friends who are my people.

I am a SAHM.  I have neither found the SAHMs around me interesting not the WOHMs. One would think that there was some connection between WOH and intellectual growth - but actually there is none.  Look around your own workplace and tell me how many men or women you meet that fit your definition of "likeminded".  But in all honesty, polite society demands that our conversations are limited to safe small talks in company.  Which means mundane and largely inoffensive and non-controversial conversation about kids, schools, vacations, movies, recipes, sports, diet and health. No one wants to talk 'shop' and bore people or touch controversial political topics.  Another thing is that unlike school or college, we are not associating with people in an intellectual environment for long periods of time on equal footing, anymore.

My DH and kids thankfully are my kind of people,  so that is a relief. I have someone to talk to throughout the day. I have cultivated a few friends (SAHMs and WOHMs) who share some common interests, but everyone is at different stages of life, with many time commitments, juggling responsibilities and obligations, and that means we meet once in a while (and this was pre-pandemic).

My own go-to solutions have been to take classes in the community college, join book clubs, attend seminars in educational institutions, watch various Ted talks, connect with people over volunteer activities etc. The bulk of my need for interesting discussion is met by my DH.  Thank God I married him.  My college friends are connected on facetime and every once in a blue moon we sit and discuss things.

I have always been curious if people find intellectual companionship in nursing homes.  What if it is similar to being in a college dorm?  Or is the memory loss and health needs too severe?

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