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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to diversify your interests.  I'm a little bit interested in a lot of different things.  This means I get along with and can talk with a ton of different types of people. [/quote]

OP here. I can - and do - talk to a lot of people. Even though I'm a huge introvert, I come up to other parents everywhere we go...on the sidelines of soccer class, playground, etc - and chat with them. But talking with people and getting along with them is not the same as [b]close, deep friendships[/b], and that's what I am really lacking right now. 
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Those take time, OP. My best friend and I have been together for more than half our lives. I do have other close friends that I have met more recently, but those relationships also take time. I didn't expect them to have a debate about something while we were watching our kids at the park. I think maybe you're coming on too strong - like a guy I went on a first date with who told me he wanted to have kids in the next two years and wanted to be married for a year before having kids and wanted to be engaged for three months to have enough time to plan a wedding but not so much time that it became all consuming. I did the math and figured out he basically wanted to propose to me that night. It was totally off-putting. Maybe if you just meet people with the expectation that they will give you nothing more than the conversation you are about to have, you will be able to find out who you click with and then try to find a way to spend more time with them. And if you're looking for the close, deep friendships you used to have with your college friends, I think you ought to reach back out to them. Yes, it's hard having friends who don't live near you - my best friend and my best college friends don't live near me, so I get it - but expecting to find your bosom buddy on the sidelines of a soccer game is kind of unrealistic.[/quote]

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