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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What did she do? This seems extreme. Have you considered the psychological damage of cutting off this relationship vs. just continuing to see her 2x/year and teaching them how to deal with her?[/quote]

Kids don't suffer psychological damage from not seeing a distant relative that they once only saw twice a year.[/quote]

Oh. Thanks for telling me now! I would have saved myself all the suffering I've gone through if only I'd gotten your dictum earlier.

Cutting people off from their relatives does cause damage. Even if it is absolutely the right thing to do (and I can think of very few instances where this would be the case), there is still a wound. I promise you. I am living with that wound.[/quote]

"People from their relatives" is a broad brush. I'm not damaged because I don't see my third cousins twice removed any more now that I am an adult. No trauma. We just grew apart.

If you are struggling from an estrangement, I recommend a therapist. They can teach you how to reframe your thinking so that you do not damage yourself.[/quote]

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