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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I learned that my 19 year old daughter is dating/hooking up with a 31 year old man. She seems to be developing feelings for him but I am concerned. Do I say anything?[/quote]

It may be too late to caution her, but if she is open to hearing your concerns, try to make it very clear that it is not about HIM personally but about what your experience has taught you about age gap in certain phases of life.—and that exceptions to the rule are pretty rare. 
“Sweetheart, I’m saying this to you as someone who has been 31 AND 19... A 31 year-old is not the intellectual or emotional equal to a 19-year-old. And if he says you are then that should be a red flag to YOU.  Generally, a 31-year-old who sees a 19 year-old as his intellectual equal or dating ideal is likely either very emotionally immature or is exploitative and shallow. I know it must be very exciting and flattering to have his interest, but I want to caution you to examine this relationship with a discriminating eye. When you are 31 you will likely cringe at the idea of thinking you’d be dating-compatible with a 19-year-old. I’m your mother and I think you’re amazing at any age, so it’s no wonder he’s interested. But a man of 31 should not find that he has that much in common with someone your age. So without even knowing him, his motives are a bit concerning.”

And PS, I’m painfully aware that this would go over like a lead balloon. So Yeah....use this little speech at your own risk. But it’s the truth![/quote]

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