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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not a rhetorical question. Sometimes I just get so exhausted by the seventh grade drama I need a good dose of the psychology behind the poor behavior to get perspective. Thank you!![/quote]

Because their mothers are mean. There, saved you thousands in therapy. [/quote]

This is a lame response. I don’t think it’s true, either. At least not across the board.

I was bullied by a former friend for a period of time in middle school. I have no idea why, just one day I showed up to school and she was mean to me and threatened the other girls in our friend group if they tried to talk to me. So I was ostracized for a period of time, at least a few months and it wasn’t just silent treatment she went out of her way to bully me - she was much bigger than me - with threats of violence on the days she was being particularly mean. During this time I was taken in by a couple of girls I hadn’t really known or been friends with before.

The bullying ended when some other girls in another clique threatened to kick her azz if she didn’t leave me alone. They were big scary girls we all feared because they were bussed in from another community and the perception the white kids had of these Hispanic kids was that they were all tough and would kick your azz soon as look at you. I didn’t know any of them but they acted just on the injustice they saw I guess - we were all in Home Ec class together and that’s where this all came down. Teacher totally clueless, of course.

That night my mom gets a call from bully’s mom and suddenly a summit is held at their house and I’m asked what the heck is going on and I’m like ??? because of course I’d been too ashamed to tell my mom I was being bullied. Anyway the result of that summit was bully was suddenly my friend again and I was told to call off the dogs which I never called on in the first place. The bully’s mom, a very nice bake cookies for the kids after school SAHM had no idea her daughter was bullying me.

I stayed overnight at bully’s house a couple of times after that and we were ‘friends’ again, but the way she turned on the hate and turned it off like the AC was deeply unsettling to me. I never felt the same about her, about the other girls in my friend group who went along with it, and I also felt very ashamed that I dropped the girls who took me in after the friend group took me back. The whole situation was shitty and I never honestly truly trusted friends after that. I’ve had plenty but the only two I really love and really trust are the two I had from earliest childhood and who we moved away from when I was 8. I’ve been close to other friends for periods of time over the years but just never trusted people the same way the whole rest of my life.

Bullying sucks. Far too many people suck. People who are bullies in school and never apologize for it are shitty people. Hey bullies, it’s long past time you find that former victim or victims on Facebook and grovel for at least a few minutes. You owe it to them. [/quote]

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