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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don't have to explain your reasoning. Why does everyone here think the mom needs to write a verbal novel in explaining herself? Simply say you're "too busy" now. Full stop. Do not tell your child why you are ending the playdates because your child will tell the other child why, and then the mom will find out.

It is not worth trying to fix other parents or their children. They have to learn the hard way that their parenting style and kids are a mess. We are in the middle of a huge parenting crisis in this country. Parents don't know, or refuse, to parent their own children. Just focus on your own kids. You can't save them.[/quote]

I agree, just stop offering.  Surely she has better manners than to invite herself to drop her child off if you don't offer.   See her without kids, meet up at parks together or other places that aren't your house, but don't offer to "host" a playdate anymore.  It doesn't need an explanation.[/quote]

I truly don't understand these answers. OP says that this is a very close friend. Do you people never tell your friends anything negative? Are you always this vague and avoidant? If I suddenly was "too busy" to host playdates with a kid I've been hosting for < checks OP > 3 years, my close friend would wonder why. She would probably assume it was something she or her kid did and would probably be upset that I chose to be evasive instead of just discussing the issue like adults. [/quote]

I wouldn’t assume that.  Not if I was getting invited to other things and meeting up semi-regularly with them outside house; staying in touch. Play dates don’t go on for ever and ever and it really doesn’t need an explanation.  I don’t see how it would help anything[/quote]

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