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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am turning a big 4-0 this summer. I don't like huge birthday parties, I am an introvert, which is known to everyone or so I thought. I wanted a quiet getaway with just DH and our 2 DCs. Lo' and behold, MIL let it slip that she and DH' siblings plan to rent a HOUSE (!) for the week of my birthday so that we can celebrate it as a family. That'll be 20 people in one, albeit big, house. This is absolutely not what I want to do and I cannot get through to anyone. MIL is getting all offended, DH's sisters said they ALREADY booked tickets.

They are nice people but I don't care to spend a week with them. I can tolerate them for a few hours but I don't need them around me all week. It is my birthday and I want to spend it the way I WANT. DH thinks this sounds "childish" and "selfish" and that his family is going out of their way to be with me on this day. They apparently think I will feel lonely, which I won't. How can I get through to these people? Shouldn't a person be able to have a voice as to how he wants to spend his own birthday?[/quote]

"Selfish" doesn't even make sense. If it's your own birthday, why is he making this about pleasing his family? Why is it about what they want instead of you? Why did he allow this to be planned behind your back? Are there usually issues with boundaries with your in laws?

Put your foot down, OP. So what if they booked tickets? They can go and enjoy themselves without you. Even your husband can go, if he wants.   [/quote]

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