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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your friend really watches your parenting closely doesn’t she?  With a friend like that, who needs enemies?  Why are you friends with someone who is so judgmental?

[b]Listen, you are your children’s parent. It is literally up to you what you think is best for them. [/b]

Like it or not, girls and boys are actually different.  And so is each individual child. I trust you as the parent know your children better than your friend does. 
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This is so simplistic.  Using this logic there's apparently nothing a parent can do wrong.  [i]This one needed to be beat with a belt with nails on the end, how dare you question me, I know my children!!
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Several people have asked OP whether the reason for the disparity is because her daughter cared more about clothes and her son doesn't care, or whether she was the driver behind going all out for her DD's clothes, and she has not responded.  The assumption that it must be for a nongendered reason, even though none has been provided, and that OP's friend [i]who actually knows her[/i] knows less about the situation than you, a person who has invented exculpatory details in her head, feels extremely defensive.

OP there's nothing wrong with giving some thought to this and making sure you're comfortable with your choices.  The people insisting that nothing about your parenting choices can ever be questioned or you're a bad, childless friend who's actually a hater!!! sound like something off of 16 and Pregnant to me.[/quote]

OP here- I did not mean to avoid that. I would say that my daughter does care more about clothes so that could easily be a reason for the dress example. Like I said before, her other examples were related to behavior and expectations so not clothing related. (I am learning from reading this board that talking about clothing and gender can really fire people up!!)

The point about favoritism makes me feel very defensive because of course, no parent wants to acknowledge any favoritism. I would say that if anything, I baby my son and I have a harder time setting clear boundaries/restrictions with him. But I will continue think about that too. [/quote]

Very often mother's will coddle their sons and put their daughters into a mini adult role. It's good you are considering this OP much better to correct course now if you need to than come to regret in the future or worse have your children resent you for it.[/quote]

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