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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is your husband aware that you want to divorce? If so, how does he feel about dividing stuff?

That’s probably the starting point since everything else stems from that. [/quote]

No, I did not share that decision with him yet. In terms of dividing there is really not much to divide other than the house which we own jointly and to buying of which we contributed equally. I do not care about any of the other stuff. He can have the furniture, the car and whatever he wants. The main issue will be the custody. I think he will go aggressively after trying to get full custody as he is very close to DC.[/quote]

It's unlikely that he'll get full custody. Most judges grant 50/50. You'd have to be abusive or just a flat out terrible parent to get less than that.

You should discuss with him your plan to separate and come to an amicable decision first. [b]There may not be a need for a lawyer if he agrees. [/b]If he doesn't, you'll need to retain one ASAP. [/quote]

OP here. Wouldn't it still be wise to have something in writing before I move out?[/quote]

It would be wise to speak to an attorney before you do anything, including talking to your husband about your decision.

Seriously.

It sounds like your marriage and my first marriage are similar, though my kid was a lot younger. Ultimately my now-ex was very collaborative, but until I’d evaluated my options with an actual divorce lawyer, I didn’t do ANYTHING. Division of assets is clearly not important to you, but custody is important. While your STBX may feel as mine did that a protracted expensive divorce was bad for everyone except our lawyers, you absolutely need to have a lawyer to avoid making stupid mistakes. For example, moving out may affect custody and it may not.[/quote]

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