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[quote=Anonymous]My dad had dementia (he died of Covid just under a year ago). One thing you can do is go with the conversation, as others have said, but steer it. I used to steer conversations to memories of when he was young. Dad: “I want to go home.” Me: “Oh, home! Do you remember the way the light came through the big windows in the house on Main St? Wouldn’t it be lovely to go there again?” My dad didn’t focus on going home, but on fears of my mom leaving him (she was devoted and never would have). So when he began saying “she’s left me and gone to Aruba” I’d say “Aruba! Did you ever go on an exotic vacation with Mom? Tell me about it Dad, please!” His mind was already on my mom, so that would sometimes work. Good luck and hugs. This is the hardest work you will ever do. [/quote]
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