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[quote=Anonymous]This is so extreme that I'm really wondering about you OP.  Did you do the work to help your daughter and your current wife build a positive relationship?  Did you, at any point, indicate to your current wife that there was a possibility that your daughter might end up living with you full time -- even as an option?  If you didn't do these things, and your current wife was led to believe that it would be just the two of you in your household for the most part, and you changed things without warning, then this makes sense.  It's not kind, it's not mature, and it's not appropriate, but it does make sense. I'm thinking that you too might have been less than kind, mature and appropriate in the way that you've handled things. You've described one "old trope".  There are others.  One possibility is that the "crazy" comes from you.  That you're repeatedly setting up untenable situations for others to deal with -- and started calling them out when they can't. Question:  If your daughter has a therapist, why are you asking a bunch of anonymous people on a chat board where the "crazy" in your life comes from?  And why do you describe it as though you had no responsibility for any of it -- or even involvement?

I agree that your daughter should be your priority over your second wife.  I also agree that individual and family therapy would be a good idea.  But I notice that you don't mention your daughter's age, your wife's age, what they might or might not have in common, or anything at all that you might have done to facilitate forming a family or even positive interactions between your daughter and your current wife.  You're not describing either one of them as individuals, and you seem to have little empathy or fondness for anyone in the midst of this disarray.  [/quote]

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