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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you setting him up to lie by asking when you already know the answer?

Personally, I would just properly manage the available screen time on his devices, boom done.[/quote]

This +10000.  Child is 11 and KNOWS he violated the rules.  Asking him to confess to what you already know and he knows that you are going to punish him for is just self-defeating for you and incredibly anxiety provoking for him.  Simply tell him that you know he violated the rules, that you are not going to argue/debate about it, and institute the consequence.  
Although I do wonder why you are choosing this battle.  Is he on screen late at night after bedtime?  Is he neglecting schoolwork, assigned chores (reasonable ones) or blowing past important boundaries because of screen time?  If not, why make a big deal out of it?  Kids do best with simple and reasonable expectations and clear consequences.  Focus on the big things and let go of the micromanagement.  Constantly putting a kid in a gotcha situation like this only teaches him/her that you can't be trusted or are not accepting of mistakes and foibles.  And almost guarantees continued lying.[/quote]

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