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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d be livid. Why don’t you put her on Do not disturb or just block her number? You need every minute of that 15 minutes to yourself. What part of “first time mom” does she not understand?

You are not being unreasonable. She is the one who acts like a toddler. I’d send a text stating that you need the constant calls and texts to stop because you have a baby and yourself to care for. And you will contact her if you need her. And then I’ll block her ass and take a good long time out.[/quote]

OP here. I will try that, I can guarantee she will flip a lid and make me feel really bad. She’ll probably involve my SO if I ignore her. I’m so scared to put my foot down because it was so emotionally draining before and this is her first grandchild so it’s going to be reeeally bad. [/quote]

To successfully set boundaries you are going to have to get over letting her reaction affect you. That is exactly the point of her reaction - to get you to remove your boundaries.

You don't need to explain or get into a discussion. If she calls and you don't want to talk, then I'd probably send a text saying - can't talk now, call you soon. You don't HAVE to do that, but it cuts off the discussion of "you could have at least texted me!" And don't let yourself get into the situation where she's haranguing you about something like the inheritance. You tell her "I'm not discussing this anymore," and then don't. If she tries to involve your SO or friends tell them this is your relationship to handle and you'd appreciate it if they'd tell you mother the same.

It is VERY likely she will be angry and escalate all of this when you set limits. Stick to your guns.[/quote]

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