Reply to Do you think most spouses are intellectually matched

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Do you think most spouses are intellectually matched"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]DH firmly believes I am smarter than he is, and he's probably not wrong per se, but...

-A lot of this comes from outward markers, like standardized test scores, which are dubious IMO. It's true that these things are generally biased against women-- of which I am one-- but also against POC-- which he is and I am not.

-To the extent I am smarter in terms of what IQ "should" measure, there's no way we are more than one standard deviation apart. I love to talk talk talk and I say I would never be with someone who couldn't keep up with me-- and he absolutely can. He's awesome. (Relatedly, I don't think we are really "smart at different things"-- at least not in the ways PPs describe. We are both intuitive, quick to make connections, good writers, etc.)

-We are "smart at different things" more broadly-- his social intelligence and his kinesthetic intelligence is off the charts, whereas mine are middling at best. He is also a brilliant musical and performing talent, where I am maybe just above average. So we do also compliment each other.

But mainly, I think the mere fact I am with him proves he is more or less as "smart" as I am-- I truly wouldn't be able to tolerate marriage to someone who couldn't keep up with me intellectually.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics