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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We were in our mid twenties and paid for our own (gorgeous, I must say) wedding, top to bottom.  Our choices, our day, no one had anything to complain about.  Of course, those who would complain about anything did, and so our first lesson of married life was learned.  You can't please everyone, and those who complained then are those who complain now.  We should have taken bets :)

Our parents were not named on the invites because they did not pay for it.  They were upset because they felt we let the world know their business.  But if they wanted to be named, they could have kicked in some cash.  Their choice.  Easy.

OP, there will always be critics.  Do what you feel is right for them.  You seem like a warm, responsible parent.  I agree with saying here is XX amount.  Frankly, we would have been grateful.

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Our parents' contribution was raising us to be professionals who could earn enough to pay for our own wedding.  We never considered not putting their names on the invitations.  It is hurting me to think about how humiliated your parents must have felt.  [/quote]

I guess I don't understand this.  As a PP mentioned, this isn't 1900 and we aren't "property" of our parents.  They aren't "giving you away" anymore.  It is just an old convention that is still being used for tradition's sake.  Eh, but maybe I'm biased b/c I didn't have a wedding- we went on vacation and got married.  Never had an engagement (which seems outdated to me too!) and just told everyone when we got back.  To each his own.[/quote]

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