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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have three kids doing travel and this has only happened one year to one of them. I had basically been telling my kid to suck it up and make the situation work for him, put his head down and work hard kind of thing.  When it was all vague, certain kids only pass it to one another, unfriendly teasing kind of thing, the coach didn't lift a finger. Actually, I'd say, he pretended not to see it.

But eventually I realized that there was actual real bullying going on (not with my kid--with another, but my son told me.) The bully kids were not only making fun of this one kid and constantly telling him he was the worst player on the team and that he "sucked" but also kicking his ball into trees and down hills. When I heard that, I went straight to the coach and told the other kid's parents. Long story short, when the coach intervened, it ended immediately. When the season ended, the bully kids got demoted.[/quote]

We had one prima donna 12-year old yelling at kids on the field that they 'sucked like sh*t'...and some of these kids were top players/starters that were as good if not better.  This kids was constantly getting away with stuff because the Club set a tone for lionizing this kid since he started playing.  We had a talk with my own son who had been a team captain to shut this kid down.   Once the other kids saw my kid standing up to him---and sticking up for all the others, there was a definite turnaround in team chemistry.

I told my kid who in the heat of the moment could be negative too--that 'look--the teammate that made a mistake already knows it.  Yelling at him about it does nothing to help.  A leader will tell them it's okay, shake it off and motivate their teammates'.  [/quote]

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