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[quote=Anonymous]As said, we need more details, which really do matter here. The paragraph that starts "Second" is really unusual to me and I think most of us would disagree with your blanket statements therein.

"I believe that inserting yourself into someone's relationship with their child (by asking you to talk to them) is completely inappropriate and overstepping boundaries"

Really?

What stood out to me is that you seem to think no one should approach a parent to even *ask* them to talk with their child about anything.

"I'm perfectly capable of determining whether my child should be approached about something."

Are you, though? I mean, are absolutely all of us, at all times? Sometimes there are things we miss, as parents.

The more I reread that paragraph, the more I think maybe I understand your position? You think it's okay for another parent to say "I noticed your Larla said XYZ to Larlina. You might not know that XYZ is a sensitive subject for Larlina because ABC." Or "Larlina really doesn't like XYZ." (Or maybe XYZ is an obvious obnoxious no-no so you don't even need a second sentence.)

So that's maybe okay with you... But it's NOT okay with you if they say "I saw that your Larla did whatever to Larlina. Larlina has a fear of that thing. Could you do me a favor and ask Larla not to do that?"

If that last sentence is the issue, then absent other context I think you're oversensitive to being criticized or redirected. Like yeah, you'd probably talk to your kid about whatever it is under some circumstances, but how dare they tell you to do that! I get it-- I think it's often unnecessary or suboptimal phrasing. I try not to command or direct people to do anything if I can help it. Like if I saw some danger presented by construction near a playground, I'd tell a fellow parent, "There's some broken glass over there near the swings," and not add "So you should keep your kids away from it," because: no kidding. I get a little annoyed when people tell me what to do in that way.

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It's my issue, and it's just not serious enough to spend more than 10 minutes being annoyed over it. [/quote]

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