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[quote=Anonymous]OP-Sending you lots of virtual hugs and support.

I think part of the problem is advice columnists without real expertise and TV shows and what have you make you feel like family is everything no matter what and kids need grandparents no matter what.

My in-laws have been verbally abusive, emotionally abusive and there is a murky history of possibly crossing the line to physical abuse. We have given them many chances and they continue to cycle from pleasant to very nasty. Plus they all seem to hate eachother, but they keep getting together and wars keep breaking out and only occasionally are gatherings somewhat peaceful.

You want your child to learn how to have a healthy relationship right? What message does it give your child if continue the abusive cycle? Even if everyone is sweet as can be to your child, I promise you every child watches closely how people treat the mom.

I focus on those friends and family we have healthy relationships with and I try to enjoy that without the dark cloud of wishing we had a more Hallmark or even Modern Family like situation with the in-laws.

You teach people how to treat you (as corny Dr. Phil used to say). If someone doesn't respect boundaries and doesn't treat you with dignity and you allow it, you are telling them it's OK to do this and you are telling your child this is an acceptable way to treat someone.

OP please keep us posted. Wishing you strength!![/quote]

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