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[quote=Anonymous]I'm being cheated on right now, on and off.  My weak, flawed husband is engaging in a love affair with "the most beautiful woman [he's] ever known."   (that's not me, just to clarify.)

She is/was a on-call prostitute known euphemistically as an "escort."  That's how they met.

So to answer OP's question finally ... I would not have wanted to know if my husband hired a whore for a one-time weekend biz trip and never saw her again and never sexted or called.    Like many many PPs, I agree that it's better not to know that kind of thing if it happens ONCE.  Or even once every 7 years or something.

However in my case, knowing is awful and yet absolutely mandatory.  I need to know the extent of this horror -- especially the part where he won't/can't give up his 23 year old whore.

I must know so I can plan the next stage in my life, right?  Protect my assets, etc.  I can't live like Carmela Soprano for years/decades while dad has a series of monogamous affairs with Other Women he actually loves, sometimes.

I may be making a distinction without an actual difference, tho, between the 1-weekend stand every 8 years of marriage and the ongoing love affair that lasts a year or more.

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