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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. To address the sexual attraction issue (and maybe someone from the LGBQ community can help me on this), I don't think this has much to do with actual sexual attraction because he's pre-puberty. I have read, anecdotally I suppose, that gay men - I'm going to mention men here just because DS is a boy - often know when they are quite young. I think sexual orientation is broader than just plain sexuality. And because of the media generally, they can put a name to it younger than previous generations.

I think with some people, they knew something was up when they were younger than the average age of 13. Maybe they didn't know what or what to do about it. Now, it's more likely that they have a sense of what's going on. Remember, the average age used to be much much older than 13 for coming out.[/quote]

I agree with all of this. However, it is also important to note that kids are pressured to pit a label on their sexuality. I am female and I had crushes on boys as early as 2nd grade. At the same time, I was completely enamored by beautiful women. It wasn’t sexual attraction- more about wanting to look/dress/act like them. If I was 9 right now, I would probably label myself bisexual based on that. DS says that he has been gay since kindergarten because he had a dream about a boy. Kids need more time and space to figure out their sexuality without the labels. 
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