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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How significant is the issue the braces would correct and how long is she likely to have them? I would be cautious given her anorexia history however in general I agree 15 year olds don’t make this type of call. [/quote]

I’m imagining 18 months for braces, though we haven’t done a consultation. If she were particularly mature and really into her being her authentic self, then I would really listen if she didn’t want them. Instead, she has severe social anxiety, body dysmorphia (still), and she’s very focused on her appearance, as many girls her age are. The anorexia itself, plus treatment, sort of interrupted normal adolescent development, and I don’t feel like she understands a lot about the world. The pandemic hasn’t helped.

I agree with an above poster about job and relationship prospects with crooked teeth, but I’m not sure how or whether to convey that to her. Like, it’s okay for a young teen to have crooked teeth, but people will judge you as a young adult. Judging based on appearance is kind of a touchy subject...[/quote]

Her body image issues are why I would NOT force her to get braces.  You would be telling her that she did not have control over her own body, which could be really stressful and even triggering.  I wouldn't get into a contest of wills with a recovering anorexic.

I would see if she could consult with an orthodontist, without you in the room, so she could ask questions and have the pros and cons explained to her.  Make sure they know not to be overbearing or pressure her, but give her an opportunity to get some information and consider it on her own.  Then let her make the call.  If she's in control of the process, she might be more amenable than if it feels like something being pushed on her (because you think she's not good enough the way she is).

And people with imperfect teeth date and get jobs and do just fine in life.  Slightly crooked teeth aren't really a big deal.  And it's not like it's now or never -- she can get Invisalign in college or later if she decides that her teeth are actually causing problems.  [/quote]

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