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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This would exhaust me. It's nice of them to include you, and nice of you to participate in his family, but when it moves from "fun opportunity, no pressure if you can't make it!" to "you have to come," that's when it becomes an issue. [/quote]
Op - this is the issue. It's lovely for his parents to invite me, and I like them a lot! I don't want anyone to think I dislike them or that I'm ungrateful - they are very, very generous.

But I'm kind of worried that I just...suggested...I skip one trip a year and he flipped. It wasn't meant as a dig as in, "Oh, I don't like your family and want space from them." It was meant in the sense of, I enjoy alone time at home and once I return to work in the office I'll only have a certain number of weeks. Plus there's a lot of other stuff I want to do in a year![/quote]
Yikes. OP, you should be worried. I mean, sure, it's possible that you just caught him in a bad moment, or that he's the kind of person that comes out of the gate strong but will back down if met with an equally strong response (either of which are issues in their own right but can possibly be worked with, if you don't mind dealing with it. My DH is the latter type and once I figured it out, and he figured out I had no problem telling him to cut the nonsense, we have a lot less conflict now) - but this is definitely a red flag. You can find someone else to love, seriously, who won't be such a demanding jerk and appreciates that you are an individual with your own life, needs, and wants. You are NOT a mere extension of him, but this kind of reaction seems to indicate he may think you are.[/quote]

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