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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love being the parent of an only child, but one thing that has started to grate is that people are very dismissive towards me because I only have one child. So I'm always a "first time mom" because my first time is also my last time. It's frustrating because it doesn't match up with my experience, which is that I feel very comfortable in my role as a parent and confident in many (obviously not all) of my choices. Does this go on forever? Do I just have to get used to my sister and my mom and many of my friends with multiple kids acting condescending towards me just because they have 2 or more kids, or their kids are a year or two older than mine? It's exhausting. I am tired of the unsolicited advice, the "you'll see" comments, and the [b]general dismissiveness when I say anything about parenting[/b] because, after all, I "only have one".[/quote]

I'm wondering about what the bolded part of your post really entails. How often are you yourself giving people advice, and how "confident" are you? Having a second child didn't make me an an expert in parenting (far from it), but it did show me how much I DON'T KNOW about children. Having two children is a clear wake up call that all kids are different. I'm MUCH less likely to give advice to people after two children than I was when I only had one child.[/quote]

This is what I was thinking too. The most annoying parent in our neighborhood has an only child and she loves to tell everyone else how we should be doing things.[/quote]

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