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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Apparently, it doesn’t matter at all who takes care of a baby, as long as they are fed and their diapers are changed.

So parents can just do as they choose, because pretty much anyone can take care of your baby and it will make no difference at all in the long run. 
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No, people are saying the opposite of that.  A child needs a loving, attentive caregiver.  That caregiver doesn’t need to be the mother.   Generations of kids all over the world have grown up being cared for by fathers, grandmothers, and “aunties” who may or may not be related to the child.  The idea that a child must be cared for exclusively by a SAHM is a modern, mostly Western, invention that has no basis in how most people in the world live and how people have lived for thousands of years.  [/quote]

+1. Infants need a secure attachment with a loving caregiver, but it really does not matter if that's a parent, family member, or paid person. However, it is HARD to leave your baby and especially so in this country when women go back after a few months or even less. Mothers' brains are wired not to leave their babies, but babies brains are wired to form a connection to anyone who provides care. That is sensible from an evolutionary perspective. On the other hand, bigger kids really benefit from high quality attention from parents, so I feel like if you're going to pick some years to scale back, being home when your kid gets off the bus is the way to do it. [/quote]
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One benefit that I think children get from high quality day care is the change of environment and interaction with other children, especially after 1 year old. Obviously a SAHM can provide those experiences too by joining mom’s groups and being very active in pursuing enrichment for her child. But some of us are really well suited to that and others are not. There isn’t a single right way or best way to raise a child.[/quote]

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