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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Friends don't invite you over as a family nearly as often , at least not for several years.  [/quote]

Yeah, this part really sucks, but I get it. If someone wants to invite a couple of families over for a small get-together, and one invitation can mean 6-7 people in and of itself... that turns it into a much bigger gathering so we get overlooked for smaller families.[/quote]

I also found this to be an issue.  Whether or not having four is easy or difficult partly depends on how many kids your friends have.  We aren't religious, but when we had our fourth, we had a lot of Mormon friends with big families (once you have one Mormon friend, you have a lot of them).  It was actually really easy.  The kids played together.  They were in some activities, but you didn't have to join the baseball team to play baseball or the soccer team to play soccer...not when you regularly had playgroup with 15 other kids.

We moved when my youngest was a year old, and we had a really difficult time making family friends.  It was actually really lonely.  DH and I had almost no friends outside of work.  The kids had friends, but we always had to call and arrange playdates.  At one point, DH and I talked about joining the LDS church just to find some people with bigger families to hang out with.  Eventually, the kids got older, and our invitations started being accepted, and other people started extending invitations to us.

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My daughter’s good friend is the oldest of 5 kids.  I almost never ask her over for a play date anymore.  They moved that they are far enough enough away that drop off play date isn’t practical.  So when we have one, mom brings all 5 kids.  It’s a lot.  I feel bad for not inviting them over as much anymore.  If I do feel up to one, I suggest us driving one way, either to pick her up or drop off, to shirt around the whole group coming over.  [/quote]

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