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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get both sides. I think  with some things if you are going to depend on them if things go badly, then they want to try to prevent it.

My sister announced she was having a baby on her own with a sperm donor. She has a good job, but a difficult personality-not a temperament for raising kids. Plus, she doesn't have many friends..or a significant other or family in the area. She flipped out when anyone suggested she needed a village. Now all she does is complain. She doesn't get along with her child. She's livid at the kids therapist's suggestions. People have filed complaints about her nastiness at work. She is a complete mess and she may move in with them.

My husband and I's philosophy has always been we are adults, we make our own choices and we deal with the consequences and don't expect anyone to help if things go south.[/quote]

Sure, absolutely. We are fully financially independent—we live below our means and both have steady jobs. We do not expect any help from my parents if God forbid something happened.

I mean, I’m not thrilled with the fact that my sister has a PhD in the humanities and, at the age of 31, has yet to hold a job. She’s a post-doc and is looking for full-time jobs. In the meantime, she’s dependent on her husband for income. Would not be my choice, but she’s an adult. She makes her own choices. [/quote]

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