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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, First of all, I'm calling them "mean girls" to YOU, the adults on this board, so that's not the problem.

More importantly, my DD is well aware of what makes a good friend, what doesn't etc. Despite that she's still naive, so being a good parent, and be a bit more sophisticated than her, I really do need to find a way to steer her to the other girls, and AWAY from this one girl. So, am looking for language so that I don't talk to her about "mean girls."  And I do feel like my DD has this thing for girls that aren't nice -- maybe they are more visible or something. Anyway, I will of course, reinforce, the "what makes a good friend" talk, [b]but I wish[/b] she wouldnt go after this one girl at all. She's truly, truly a very mean girl, yes, at 7 or 8![/quote]

OP, is your dd coming to you about this or are you trying to step in based on what you see?  Depending on the answer, depends on how to go about it.  Part of this is your dd's personality.  Not all kids are attracted to kids like this.  I disagree with a pp who said this is bullying.  Your dd is the one seeking this kid's attention.  It sounds like she needs loving support from you, but doesn't need you to "fix it."  Let her build her own confidence.  If it was me, I'd try to steer her toward sports, group activities, and would invite families over for dinner who had girls that I would like her to hang with.  If she's complaining about it, then you can help brainstorm/write down solutions to her problems, but give her some control.  I think this idea is from Siblings W/O Rivalry.  To inject a bit of humor, we add funny/outrageous solutions too.  I would be a good listener, and also see if she wanted help in role play, but her confidence will only grow if she can figure it out herself.  [/quote]

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