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[quote=Anonymous]OP again.  PP thanks so much for your reply.  Indeed, this has been a big problem since preschool.  We have tried all sorts of behavior charts, etc. and with the exception of last year, he has had issues every year.  Last year, his behavior grades were satisfactory (but not good or outstanding..which I am ok with).

I spoke with him about our conference.  I started with how he is doing great in his subjects, and his teacher mentioned what a strong student he is.  Then we spoke about some of the behavior issues.  Mainly I discussed with him how he needs to 1) take responsibility for his actions 2) stop innapropriate behavior, and in fact, think before he does things like continually tap someones shoulder, even when they ask him to stop 3) be respectful, waiting his turn to answer, etc.

With regard to friends, this is a sticky one.  He does have friends, but he does not attend our neighborhood school.  We had the right to opt out in K due to NCLB sanctions on our neighborhood school.  Anyway, he is at a bit of a disadvantage due to this, since he does not see friends after school, etc.  But, we have longtime friends from baseball, etc.  The teacher mentioned that he does have friends, but, that other children have begun to not want to be around him since he can be annoying with his persistant behaviors.  Funny enough, at home, he is not like that, but BOY when his brother (again who has suspected AS) is acting that way he goes crazy.  So, I think I might try the slant of "when brother does this to you, how do you like it?  So, it has begun to affect his friendships.  Plus at his school, he is in a Local Level IV class, so he will likely be with the exact group for the next 3 years since there is one AAP class per grade.  He needs to figure out how to get along...

I was sort of thinking that we may need to make an appt for a more thorough eval done.  Not sure what our dev. ped will do, since we saw her for AS with our younger son.   Would love to know the full IQ stuff, to make sense of his strengths, etc. but not sure if we can get that paid for if part of a dev. eval

[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP, 6:56 here. Our DS is the same - seems to be not paying attention but is taking it all in. Please excuse me if I'm repeating stuff you've answered before below.

You may have said but is this something that is of big concern to all his teachers over the years or just this year? Do you review behavior expectations with DS every morning and then talk about the day when he gets back and give him encouragement and talk about what he can do when he feels certain ways - like out of control? How does he like what he's learning? Would he rate school as easy, what does he say is hard about being there all day?  Does he have friends or is it hard for him?  What does he say when you have a conversation about one of these "episodes where he doesn't acknowledge what he's done" at a later time when all is calm? Is he afraid of consequences and just lying? Both our kids have reached an age where they will outright lie!  All kids do.

Have you tried all of this and it's still not working for him at all and you've seen no change?  Is he any more mature than last year in the way he deals with stuff? If not, then I'd vote for moving ahead with the evaluation. It may provide valuable information to you or not but probably would be worth it.

Despite the language we'd been receiving in emails, DS's teacher did not recommend an evaluation at the conference. We are working with her to settle him down in class. He can with reminders control himself but it's slow. It sounds like your DS is possibly, dare I say it, way beyond the curriculum. I would definitely have a complete IQ test evaluation done as well if that's not a part of the neuro evaluation.

Good luck and let us know what you decide to do.[/quote][/quote]

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