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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think a few rejections are not a bad thing.

DC applied ED to a reach, got in and withdrew application from an extreme reach that he would have loved to be admitted to (even thought I'm not sure it would actually have been a good fit).

He was kinda bummed that he never learned results of the extreme reach, and I think getting a rejection (as expected) would have kinda confirmed the value of the reach that he was admitted to.  As it was, DC only completed acceptances to two schools (ED and an EA), was accepted to the ED and to the EA with $$$$, so wonders if he should have aimed higher.[/quote]

I worry that this kid will never be happy.

When he applied ED, he was stating that was his first (realistic) choice. He got in. Time to celebrate.

If he keeps this mindset he will always be haunted by whether he could have gotten a better job, a better wife. He has to learn that every choice has pros and cons. Nothing is perfect.  He should focus in the positives of the bird in his hand![/quote]

ED is supposed to be "the one".  If your DC isn't sure and wants to explore the possibility with the extreme reach lottery, then someone should've advised him against the ED decision.  The game of could've-would've-should've is a lose-lose situation.  I honestly don't think your DC would've been in any better emotional state if he didn't apply ED and was reject by the extreme reach as well as the reach.  He might go down the "extreme regret" path.

So please help to guide him to see the silver lining and the brighter side of every situation, the pros and cons as PP pointed out.  That will do him a whole of good in the long run than to waste time wondering about a long shot at the extreme reach schools.  What is next, the job, the house, the wife, the kids, their college goals... It doesn't end...[/quote]

Appreciate the concern, but these posts are deeply idiotic.  Please save your concern for something real.[/quote]

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