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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guessing you live on a coast and have a loving home. This is normal for tween and teen girls now. It may last, it may not. It didn’t for my DD. She is an older teen now, only dates and talks about boys and never mentioned it again. So absolutely you said all the right things and it’s great to be supportive but unfortunately there is an epidemic of gay and trans “coming out” in girls of your daughters age. [/quote]

+1 - except I am not convinced it's confined to the coasts. A friend of mine related a similar story from Texas.

Anyway, both my daughters -14 and 10 - are in the middle of this. My reaction is similar to yours. While I would not say this to them when they are sharing their personal feelings with me because I will accept them no matter what, I have injected into the larger discussion that I think this is a part of figuring out growing up and they don't have to commit (for lack a of a better word) to what they are feeling right now.

To be honest, I simply don't believe this huge portion of the youth population is gay, bi, pan, trans. I'm glad that kids can come out with acceptance that they might not have had a generation ago, but I think it's also a trend right now as much as anything else.[/quote]

I don't know. I was one of those confused girls (not trying to be insulting, I WAS confused) but I never talked about it with anyone because I was scared to be different. My two best friends came out as bi, and with one exception only dated and married men. I don't think that means they were wrong, I think that means they leaned further in one direction and also found a larger dating pool there. In my 30s, I've also looked back and realized that a lot of my attraction as a young adult was to people who bucked the norms of their gender. I didn't really have a name for that, i don't know that all preferences have to be named as an orientation, and I didn't pursue any women because I was "straight."

Anyway, if you put it in other terms, i don't find it at all hard to believe that a huge portion of the population is not [i]exactly[/i] straight. [/quote]

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