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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would make mine go.  My kids are always hesitant to try things and then end up liking it.  I would make sure they have all the right gear on and bring an extra blanket and something to sit on so they can be warm if they decide not to sled.  But sitting at home wouldn't be an option. 
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It is impossible for force.  By the time coat is on, boots are getting kicked off.  Hats to getting thrown off.  You cannot force a 4 yr old into winter gear and make them keep it on.  It is a loosing battle.  And with temperatures at 10 degrees it isn’t the time for “natural consequences” [/quote]

I am not one to power struggle with my kids very often, but frankly, if my kid was at the point of physical violence, throwing things and kicking things, then this is a battle I can pick.  The dynamic where one child uses violence to control his parents and siblings is a bad one.

We'd go in some small space, where there isn't anything fun, and I'd tell the kid that he needed to get dressed to go outside, and then we'd wait.  I'd block to door if I needed to, and then I'd disengage, and read a book or be on my phone.  If the kid got whiny and wanted to play, I'd remind them that after he got dressed and played outside we could play with inside toys.  If he got hungry, I'd let him know that lunch was after outdoor play.  If we spent a few hours with me sitting on the floor reading a book, it would end with him in clothing appropriate to going outside.  The second he was dressed, we'd go outside for 10 minutes, and the come inside and have lunch, do something fun, etc . . . like nothing happened.  [/quote]

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