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[quote=Anonymous][quote][quote]It could be cultural too—we had a nanny who came from a culture where leaving your baby to cry was considered abusive. She loved our son and was otherwise fantastic, so we gave up the fight in naps. At 6 months, it can also be hard to distinguish between a sleep regression and poor sleep training, so adding that uncertainty (on my part) to the many’s feeling that we were asking her to do something immoral was too much. At the end of the day, I decided that I’d rather take someone who cared about my son and gave up on sleep. But the sleep was really rough, so I understand your dilemma!
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Thanks, exactly the dilemma. She loves our baby so much that it's hard to say "you're actually loving him too much." I wish it was easier and he was an easier sleeper, and secretly hope this is all just a regression and nights will be back on track soon, regardless of what she does. I hate putting a very loving woman in a position that is clearly making her uncomfortable, even though I ultimately think it is best for him to have consistency among us. My husband and I are riding it out this week, seeing what happens this weekend when we do naps too, and then planning to try once more on Monday with a conversation. We may give up after that point and accept that the benefits of her care outweigh this.[/quote]

NP, we had a similar situation, and a wonderful nanny with cultural differences who "babied" our kids--who yet became great sleepers.  As from a older Mom with multiple kids (why am I on this thread again  :wink:?), I would just caution that there are so many factors to a baby's sleep patterns, temperaments, developmental stages, it is hard for me to believe that small discrepancies between caretakers is somehow the decisive factor.  I think you are latching upon this because it is something you *can* control, as opposed to the many factors you cannot.  So absolutely have a calm, polite conversation with your nanny about your thoughts about sleep/nap training, but is absolutely not worth jeopardizing your relationship![/quote]

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