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[quote=Anonymous]Daughter has significant anxiety (as well as some executive function issues).  Meds keep it at a moderate level.  CBT only works if your child is willing to participate and do the activities.  Mine wasn't and it was just causing MORE anxiety, so we went to talk therapy instead, which seems to work better for her.  Keep in mind that you have very little control over her therapy once she's a legal adult, so try to find something that helps now.

Daughter is doing okay in her second year of college.  Her grades aren't spectacular.  But, she has made friends and is enjoying school.   So, I would say it's been a mixed success.  
Here's what worked:
1.  Smallish college (but not too small--she needed the ability to "hide" a bit.)
2.  Close to home (she came home or we went to visit her about once a month.  It was also helpful to be able to scoop her up quickly when the school closed for COVID.)
3.  Public school.  It helped MY anxiety to feel that a failed course was not a huge waste of money since it was in-state tuition.  And if she needs to go an extra semester or two, we'll be okay with the additional tuition.  
4.  Punched a bit below her weight.  This was KEY.  None of her college choices were stretches.  They were all solid matches or a bit below.  She got a burst of confidence from the acceptances and scholarship offers, the admissions process was easier, and she felt confident going in.  
5.  She's been taking full course loads, but has not taken multiple difficult classes each semester.   Encourage them to take some easy courses they really enjoy, even if they aren't directly related to their major.  My kid takes choir, for example.
6.  My daughter's SAT scores were good enough for the colleges she picked (remember punching below her weight?).  So we skipped doing SAT prep courses, multiple retakes, etc.
7.  You may have to be more involved in the college choice process than other parents.  It really helped to put parameters on cost and distance, since the sheer number of choices can be overwhelming.  
8.  During senior year, we had "college time" on some evenings and Sunday afternoons where we would talk about college and she would work on applications.  Outside of these designated times, I tried to not mention college to her unless she brought it up.  Try not to make college an all-consuming obsession.

Good luck, OP.

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